tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post4322605095176684386..comments2024-03-23T17:54:07.211-05:00Comments on Life in Tiny Town...: HonestlyMarie Greenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03830798429713169174noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-65254997175361381712009-10-28T20:26:39.558-05:002009-10-28T20:26:39.558-05:00Ah yes, I think finding the truth in these blogs s...Ah yes, I think finding the truth in these blogs saved me from the isolation I was drowning in when Harper was a baby. <br /><br />I try to truth-tell too, and I get very easily frustrated when I feel like people only share the good/happy things about life with kids.Kelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02256355039094301578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-53982643647435925272009-10-05T08:55:07.999-05:002009-10-05T08:55:07.999-05:00Amen and Amen!! It's those moms that drive me...Amen and Amen!! It's those moms that drive me nuts AND make me cry at night when I have one of my many less-than-perfect parenting moments. My husband could probably use lots of support in that area, I agree it's lacking. Especially in the challenges of raising a household of girls!shruleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17618626625863230886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-45898956909643701692009-10-02T16:51:11.159-05:002009-10-02T16:51:11.159-05:00WOOT, and also I think that men must not NEED it a...WOOT, and also I think that men must not NEED it as much as we do, or else they'd MAKE it.Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-37761648340823924012009-10-02T09:23:07.142-05:002009-10-02T09:23:07.142-05:00Interesting you bring this up about dads. My husba...Interesting you bring this up about dads. My husband just the other day asked me if there are any daddy blogs out there that I know of. He hears me speak about reading mommy blogs (I retell him some of the funny stories or interesting perspectives), and I think he needs this sort of connection as well. Do you know any? I feel really bad for him--his network of friends locally is pretty nonexistent. Where we live is such a transient area--people move all the time, and we've lost quite a few friends this way. Plus, in this area, all of the men who are professionally in positions similar to my husband's seem to have stay-at-home wives--so he has less in common with them because I am not a SAHM, and we, as family, face somewhat different challenges because we both work (not to say that we have it tougher or eaiser--just different in some aspects). I know he desparately needs a connection with other dads like him, but he doesn't know how to find them. It is much more difficult for men, I think--they have less opportunity to connect than we do because they define friendships differently than we do. In any case, I will stop blabbing--but if you have any recommendations for good dad blogs, let me know.KSnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-49740708756180506872009-10-01T13:40:55.114-05:002009-10-01T13:40:55.114-05:00Funny how we are on the same page...this has been ...Funny how we are on the same page...this has been on my mind a lot lately...I have had many o conversation up this alley as of late (not about the dad part, though). I know someone horribly damaged by this "perfection" you talk of. It ruined her and sent her into deep places, although she was standing on the edge already. Its too bad - I was just this morning, trying to come up with some witty comment for my fb status about this...but alas. Anyway, Josh doesn't have an outlet for this, but neither does he seem to need it - maybe because their identity is less wrapped up in the dad role and more about their ability to provide? Anyway, thank you for being real. I insist on it. (tammy)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-84026035674785017442009-10-01T12:49:37.721-05:002009-10-01T12:49:37.721-05:00I agree with you whole heartedly about not being a...I agree with you whole heartedly about not being able to handle all sunshine/rainbows/fluffy bunnies type moms. It isn't real to me.<br /><br />You are also correct about dads not having the same kind of outlet. We have one SAHD in our neighborhood (whom I've never met) and I wonder how lonely he is for someone to have real conversations with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-62115355544276424862009-10-01T11:38:16.226-05:002009-10-01T11:38:16.226-05:00Mine doesn't have much, but I think it's e...Mine doesn't have much, but I think it's enough for him. He's got some work friends who mostly joke about child-rearing type stuff. And my brother-in-laws are good that way. Mostly, I think it IS a girl/ mom thing. And it's one of the main reasons I love blogging & reading blogs. I have found so many honest moms (like you!) who bolter even when they don't realize it.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05170500094049647497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-80480969816051887142009-09-30T18:28:03.650-05:002009-09-30T18:28:03.650-05:00You are one of my favorite truth tellers out there...You are one of my favorite truth tellers out there! And your pitch-perfect comments never cease to amaze (and support and encourage) me.<br /><br />CG's best bud also has two daughters and when I ask him if they ever talk about what fatherhood is like he says "yeah but not like you and your girlfriends do" by which I think he means they don't talk for HOURS basically repeating the same stories over and over again, crying and hugging. (I think that would be really, really good for them both!)clueless but hopeful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-52561138920989777222009-09-30T15:56:33.258-05:002009-09-30T15:56:33.258-05:00I would say Jim has a few good dad friends with wh...I would say Jim has a few good dad friends with whom he can bond about fatherhood, but again, as Devan said, since guys aren't (usually) in the throes of it 24/7 the way some of us moms are, I think they tend to feel the need for those outlets a little less. I do agree in general though that men (at least white middle class type men) in our society actually have a lot less opportunity for venting, complaining, bonding, etc. Because they are the white male so what on EARTH could they have to complain about, right? They should be thanking all the women and minorites on whose backs they have climbed to reach the top!<br />And while that's partly true, it's also partly bs and if I were a guy, would royally piss me off.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-78717501384235476392009-09-30T15:18:22.456-05:002009-09-30T15:18:22.456-05:00I agree that Dads have fewer resources for bonding...I agree that Dads have fewer resources for bonding about being dads, but I also think they seek it out less.d e v a nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02514260896810474173noreply@blogger.com