tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post9210346650799028144..comments2024-03-23T17:54:07.211-05:00Comments on Life in Tiny Town...: Day's EndMarie Greenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03830798429713169174noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-20239973199293184142010-07-06T19:38:36.867-05:002010-07-06T19:38:36.867-05:00I can only imagine how that would feel with two th...I can only imagine how that would feel with two the same exact age. I have totally felt torn so much with my two who are THREE YEARS apart. I still feel that way often. I can't fully be in the moment with one because the other one is bleating in my ear or teething on my shin or whining in the corner about how she NEVER gets what she wants or some such nonsense.<br /><br />It sounds like the one who suffered the most in your equation is probably you. Your time and attention and energy were always being pulled in two directions. They got what they needed, you maybe didn't get what you needed- to enjoy it enough? or just rest for a second in between switching gears? <br /><br />Your twins so clearly get so much from you (and from each other).clueless but hopeful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-58308977660515746572010-07-03T20:51:44.517-05:002010-07-03T20:51:44.517-05:00Gah, I'm not sure my opinion counts for much, ...Gah, I'm not sure my opinion counts for much, but I wish I could fully convey to you how entirely positive I am that you give all your girls way, way, WAY more than enough of all the important things. Love, time, attention, space... I suppose it could be difficult to know that from far away, but I feel like I do. Maybe it is the family time you talk about, or maybe it is the smiling, happy children I see in your pictures. Photo after photo of what childhood should look like. And sure, none of us share photographic evidence of the uglier moments when we aren't are best, but I'm still whole-heartedly convinced that your balance sheet comes out way ahead.Kelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02256355039094301578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-2693840319700778922010-07-03T13:57:46.640-05:002010-07-03T13:57:46.640-05:00My twins were 3 1/2 when Marin came along, so she ...My twins were 3 1/2 when Marin came along, so she was OBVIOUSLY "the baby"... so I didn't run into feel like I couldn't care for the bigger kids when I was cuddling her. They were big enough (and it probably helps that they had each other) that they were off playing while I cuddled her.<br /><br />So I think with your 3rd baby, Sarah, you will feel less torn. I hope so, anyway!Marie Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03830798429713169174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2121112544008479313.post-42934510655691492292010-07-03T11:35:28.540-05:002010-07-03T11:35:28.540-05:00If it's any consolation, I kinda think all mom...If it's any consolation, I kinda think all moms feel like this when they have two kids close in age, twins or not. I remember constantly feeling that way about Eli- guilty that I couldn't just sit and snuggle with him, enjoying his babyhood as I had with Addy- because as soon as his many needs were tended to his sister was desperate for attention of her own. She was still a month shy of two when he was born, and while I thought that was plenty of space, it turned out she was still a baby in a lot of ways. That first year of Eli's life was filled with guilt and being torn between my two babies. I am really hoping this time around the three year gap (and my toddler being potty trained!) is going to make a difference and that I won't feel quite so pulled and like I'm short changing all my kids.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.com