Monday, April 12, 2010

Conversation

I was putting Kate to bed the other night when she couldn't stop talking about school. Perhaps it started as a stall tactic, but once that faucet was open, the words could not stop flowing.

I'm not sure if any of you have trouble retrieving anything significant about your child's day, but around here, it's nearly impossible. I always ask how their school day was ("fine"), I ask specific questions ("Who did you sit by at lunch?" "Did anything funny happen?" "Emily" "Not really."). It seems I am only granted one or two word answers; they don't usually want to go into any details.

So when Kate started telling me- really telling me- about school, I listened (stall tactic or not). She ended up grabbing her class picture and telling me specifics about each child. "He doesn't clean his ears very much" (??!!), "She likes to tell lies", "She's never moved a crayon, EVER." etc.

Then she got to a little boy and said "Mom, he's so into me. Like, so, so into me. If I even spill a little water, he jumps up. And goes and gets me a paper towel." She went on to tell me that she's informed him that she's not allowed to date, that dating is for high schoolers. And that she's not really that into him, but since they can't date anyway, she sees no point in telling him.

Then she pointed to another little boy and said "He's into me too. But I'm sorta into him. We're into each other an equal amount. I think that's best; being into each other an equal amount."

So, at the tender age of seven, I've had my first human relationship conversation with my daughter. She did most of the talking, and did a good job of summing it up, I think.

I love that girl. Or- as the kids these days would say- I'm so into her.

10 comments:

Sunny said...

That's so cute....and kinda sad.

Our children grow up way to quickly for my taste. But your little darling sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders- already!!!

Marie Green said...

I know! It was both perfectly grown-up and sweetly innocent, the way she was telling it all to me.

GreenStyleMom said...

That's so sweet!

Jess said...

OH. I NEED a child. Not a baby but a CHILD. I mean, one that starts as a baby would be lovely. But a CHILD. NEED.

d e v a n said...

Oh my goodness. What a conversation!I love it!

Shelly Overlook said...

I hate trying to get anything out of my kid about her day ("I forget") so I totally understand. I can't wait for the days I get to have a conversation like the one you had. How did you manage a straight face during the "he's so into me" conversation? Too cute!!

Marie Green said...

Jess- having a child(ren) IS pretty cool. I can't wait for you to experience it too.

Shelly- I kept a straight face because she was so very serious. I knew she'd get mad/stop talking if I laughed even a tiny bit. OH, but in my head I was DYING.

Erin said...

Adorable and also? Sort of SCARING THE CRAP out of me. I am terrified of my children's broken hearts.

Marie Green said...

Erin, OMG, in that same conversation, she told me about how a girl who she knows pretty well (playdates and such) didn't invite her and Joan to her bday party. (She's been to their party.) And she was all, cheerfully "She just didn't have room in her car! Otherwise she would have invited us! It was just too full! But she's still our friend!" and it was KILLING me, the way she was talking herself out of hurt.

Astarte said...

That is so adorable! And what a wise little thing she is - it's always best when it's equal, indeed. What a lovely conversation to have had!